Many of my friends know my stand in relationships and marriage by now... But if you don't know here it is...
I believe you can be in a healthy committed relationship with someone you really love, it can all start as a friendship and develop into something more only if you are able to tolerate enough of each other's bullshit to have a fairly decent time. I believe that in that relationship you should have respect, tolerance, patience, sex, open communication, sex, time apart from each other, sex, good time with friends, sex and even more sex. But that's just my opinion.
Now, when it comes to marriage I believe marriage is a business and I would only marry if that benefits both my partner and of course me. Marriage is a social union that involves a legal contract between two individuals or parties (if the family becomes involved)... just like business.
Now point here is to help me, help you, so that you can help me... get it?
No?
Okay in other words let me ask you... Are women being too demanding or is it that we know our worth? Can men really be that immature, selfish and naive? Or is it that women are even more immature, selfish and naive? Is it really that hard to find a decent looking guy with his heart in the right place who's funny, romantic or thoughtful, a hard working, faithful man who's intelligent?! Or is it that I'm being too demanding/picky here? Doesn't a guy want that too?
A girl who is good looking, funny, smart, well grounded who can basically be not only a girlfriend but one of your best friends? Your confidant?
I would love a guy with whom I can watch stupid movies, watch wrestling or sports or play video games but also to be able to have sex and talk about European history simultaneously (get it I want him to be well cultured too...) but also when I need him to hug me 'cause I'm on my period or something, he will be the first one to be there hug me and I don't know... make dead baby jokes or whatever.
I don't long to find "true love" any more... because here's the deal: if its love and you both feel love then its true, that's all there is to it but just finding that connection, finding that passion, that desire; not only for each other but for life, for living, for having an awesome time, for laughing till everything hurts whether it is for an hour, a week, a year, or even hopefully for a life time just having that... just a guy that interests me again, tickles my brain and gives me butterflies, someone who picks on my curiosity... I don't know if I'm being too picky here but I really hope someone understands... All I know is that I love that feeling and I also miss it too. I want to fell like that again... I want to get nervous and act foolishly around that guy. I want to hold hands and kiss every time we feel like it . . .
Like a good friend once wrote to me : "I am by no means perfect. I'm wound up, stubborn, slow to trust, I don't prioritize myself, dislike help even with people that know me for years. I'm working on that, I'm working on a lot of things. I'm pretty hell bent that this will be a new chapter of my life, a different one. Mask on top of masks until I've completely lost what's underneath. I don't even know where I'm going with this I guess just expressing mirror thoughts, you are right to look for a deeper bond in love."
That's exactly how I feel and pretty much how I am I have positive and negative qualities. But that is exactly what I ask for... not the perfect man but a man with positive and negatives qualities that accepts himself for who and how he is and accepts me who and how I am. That's what I ask for.
I want my cake and eat it too.
Gracias y buen probecho!
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